60 Questions to Ask Your Fiancé(e) After the Rishta (2026)
By Hugsy Team60 questions
The rishta is fixed, but you've probably spent only a few hours together. The calls between now and the wedding are your best chance to know each other properly, before the wedding takes over everything.
Use them for the questions whose answers you'd otherwise discover after moving in.
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What did you honestly think of me when we first met?
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Getting to know each other properly
10 questions- 01What did you honestly think of me when we first met?
- 02When did this start to feel like more than a family arrangement to you?
- 03What's something about you I'd only find out after living with you?
- 04What's worrying you most right now, about anything at all?
- 05What are you working towards this year, and how can I support it?
- 06What's a small thing that can turn a bad day around for you?
- 07What makes you angry, and what do you do when you're upset?
- 08When you're stressed, do you want advice or just someone to listen?
- 09Which of your friends do you most want me to get along with before the wedding?
- 10What's something you wish I asked you about more often?
The wedding
9 questions- 11Do you want our wedding to feel relaxed, grand, or happily chaotic?
- 12What part of a big Indian wedding do you secretly want, even if you say you don't?
- 13If our families want very different weddings, how do we find the middle?
- 14Which ritual or function matters most to you, and why?
- 15How much wedding is "enough" before it becomes for other people?
- 16Am I doing enough with the wedding planning? What can I take off your plate?
- 17What's one wedding decision you'd like the two of us to make on our own?
- 18What's your idea of the perfect honeymoon, and should we save for it?
- 19On the wedding days, when everyone wants a piece of us, how do we look after each other?
Two cities till the wedding
8 questions- 20What time of day do you most want to hear from me?
- 21Calls, voice notes or texts through the day: what feels like enough to you?
- 22What can I do this week, from here, to make you feel cared for?
- 23Which festival before the wedding should we try to spend in the same city?
- 24Is there something on your mind that's easier to type than to say on a call?
- 25When you next visit my city, where should I take you first?
- 26After the wedding, which city will be home, and how do you feel about moving or staying?
- 27What's one thing about this long-distance stretch you might actually miss once we're married?
Families and in-laws
9 questions- 28What's one thing you genuinely like about my family so far?
- 29What should my parents know about you that they haven't figured out yet?
- 30How often feels right to you for visiting each set of parents?
- 31During festivals, how do we split time fairly between both families?
- 32When relatives give advice we didn't ask for, what's our team response?
- 33If we disagree in front of family, should I back you then or talk it over later?
- 34What's one tradition from your family you want to carry into ours?
- 35Is there a relative on either side I should understand better before the wedding?
- 36What did watching your parents' marriage teach you, good and bad?
Life after the wedding
9 questions- 37Describe a normal weekday for us a year after the wedding.
- 38How should we split the cooking, cleaning and bills?
- 39Joint account, separate accounts, or both?
- 40Do you want to change your name, keep it, or something else, and why?
- 41What's your ideal balance between time together and time alone each week?
- 42Early bird or night owl, and how do we share a home if we're opposites?
- 43When relatives start asking about "good news", what's our shared answer?
- 44What do you expect date nights to look like once we're married?
- 45What do you think will change the most for you after we get married?
Fun and a little flirty
8 questions- 46Who was the first person you told about us, and what did you say?
- 47What's your idea of a romantic evening with me?
- 48Which song should we dance to at the sangeet?
- 49Which outfit of mine have you liked most so far?
- 50Plan our first date as a married couple. Where are we going?
- 51Which photo of us do you keep going back to?
- 52What are you secretly most excited about for the wedding day?
- 53Who's going to cry first at the wedding, you or me?
Just us
7 questions- 54What made you sure enough to say yes?
- 55Is there anything about me you expect will change after marriage?
- 56What do you think we're already good at as a couple, and what do we need to work on?
- 57Is there something you've been nervous to say to me that we could talk about now?
- 58Do you feel you can count on me? What would make you feel that more?
- 59What kind of couple do you hope people see us as?
- 60What do you want to tell me on our wedding day that you might not get the chance to say?
How to use these
- Ask one question at the start of the call, before the day's wedding logistics take over.
- Write down the answers you want to keep. Question 60 is worth rereading on the wedding morning.
- If a question touches either family, talk it through just the two of you first, then decide together what goes back to the parents.
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Where these questions come from
We read the lists couples already search for, kept the questions that work, and rewrote or replaced most of them in our own words. Some come from the 2,000+ prompts inside the Hugsy app. A person reviews every list before it goes live.
