60 Relationship Check-In Questions: Daily, Weekly and Monthly (2026)
By Hugsy Team60 questions
Most couples only check in when something has already gone wrong, so a check-in starts to feel like a warning. It works much better as a habit: a minute a day, a little longer once a week, a proper talk once a month.
Pick a fixed time, keep it short, and stick to it.
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Describe your day in three words.
Daily, in a minute
10 questions- 01Describe your day in three words.
- 02Rate today from 1 to 10. What decided the number?
- 03What made you smile today?
- 04What's one thing on your mind tonight that you haven't told me yet?
- 05How's your energy right now: drained, okay, or full?
- 06What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
- 07Did you eat properly today, or was it chai and biscuits again?
- 08What did you get from me today, even something tiny?
- 09Is there anything I can take off your plate tomorrow?
- 10What do you need from me tonight: a chat, some quiet, or a laugh?
Weekly
12 questions- 11What's working well for us right now?
- 12How well do you feel we talked to each other this week?
- 13When did you feel closest to me this week?
- 14Was there a moment this week when you felt far from me?
- 15Outside of us, what's taking up most of your headspace right now?
- 16What was the best part of our week?
- 17How's the balance between work and the rest of life feeling?
- 18Is there anything in our routine you'd like to change?
- 19What would you like more of from me this week?
- 20What would you like a little less of from me?
- 21What's one plan this weekend that's just for the two of us?
- 22Are there family visits, functions or calls coming up that we should talk through?
Monthly
10 questions- 23What's your favourite memory of us from this month?
- 24How do you feel about the direction we're heading as a couple?
- 25What's one small habit we could start this month to feel closer?
- 26Is there anything about our money we should look at together this month?
- 27Between work, family and friends, are we getting enough time for each other?
- 28Do you have a new goal I could help you with?
- 29How are you feeling about the affection and closeness between us lately?
- 30Is there a topic we keep avoiding that you'd like us to finally open?
- 31What's one thing you hope we're both better at a year from now?
- 32What's one thing we should do or try together before our next check-in?
When things feel off
10 questions- 33Is anything bothering you that we haven't talked about yet?
- 34Does anything between us still feel unresolved?
- 35In our last disagreement, did you feel heard? What would have helped?
- 36Right now, do you want some space first or me close first?
- 37Is this about us, or is something else weighing on you?
- 38What's a sign that I've hurt you that I keep missing?
- 39Is there an old argument we never really finished?
- 40When we disagree about family, how do we stop it becoming about us?
- 41What could I say right now that would help you feel okay?
- 42Would talking to a counsellor together ever feel right to you?
Appreciation
9 questions- 43What's one thing I did this week that made you feel loved?
- 44When do you feel most loved and appreciated by me?
- 45What's something you appreciate about us that we never talk about?
- 46What did I do recently that you meant to thank me for but didn't?
- 47What's a small thing that means a lot to you in our relationship?
- 48When did you last feel proud of me?
- 49What's a strength of mine that quietly holds us together?
- 50What's one ordinary moment with me you'd happily live again?
- 51How do you think we've grown as a couple this year?
Long-distance check-ins
9 questions- 52Do our calls feel like enough right now, or too much?
- 53What time of day do you miss me most?
- 54When's our next visit, and what's one thing we have to do?
- 55Should a video call count as a date night?
- 56Is anything about the distance getting harder lately?
- 57How do we protect "us" when work gets brutal for one of us?
- 58What would make a week apart feel more shared?
- 59Is our plan for closing the distance still on track?
- 60What's one small thing I could send you this week?
How to use these
- Put the weekly check-in on the calendar, same day every week. Sunday evening is a good default.
- Both of you answer every question, and nobody defends themselves during the check-in.
- If a question opens up something big, note it down and give it its own time later.
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Where these questions come from
We read the lists couples already search for, kept the questions that work, and rewrote or replaced most of them in our own words. Some come from the 2,000+ prompts inside the Hugsy app. A person reviews every list before it goes live.
