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100 This or That Questions for Couples (Chai or Coffee Edition, 2026)

By Hugsy Team100 questions

This or that is the quickest way to learn small things about someone: how they take their chai, how they pack, what they do with the family WhatsApp group. It's fast enough to play in a queue and surprisingly good at starting longer conversations.

Answer fast, then ask why.

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  1. Food and chai
  2. Everyday habits
  3. Date night and romance
  4. Travel
  5. Bollywood, cricket and pop culture
  6. Deeper this or that
  7. Long-distance this or that

Food and chai

15 questions
  1. 01Chai or coffee?
  2. 02Cutting chai or masala chai?
  3. 03Filter coffee or cold coffee?
  4. 04Sweet or savoury?
  5. 05Ghar ka khana or ordering in?
  6. 06Roti or rice?
  7. 07Biryani or butter chicken?
  8. 08Pani puri or momos?
  9. 09Street food or fine dining?
  10. 10Maggi or poha?
  11. 11Spicy or mild?
  12. 12Mango season or gajar halwa season?
  13. 13Pizza or pasta?
  14. 14Cook at home or order takeout?
  15. 15Samosa or vada pav?

Everyday habits

15 questions
  1. 16Morning person or night owl?
  2. 17Texting or calling?
  3. 18AC or fan?
  4. 19Clean as you go or one big Sunday clean?
  5. 20Family WhatsApp group: reply or mute?
  6. 21Auto or metro?
  7. 22Fold laundry right away or the sacred clothes chair?
  8. 23Dogs or cats?
  9. 24Introvert or extrovert?
  10. 25Thirty minutes early or an hour late?
  11. 26Saving or spending?
  12. 27Work from home or work from office?
  13. 28Plan it or wing it?
  14. 29Shower in the morning or at night?
  15. 30Socks in bed or bare feet?

Date night and romance

15 questions
  1. 31Big spoon or little spoon?
  2. 32Love in words or love in actions?
  3. 33Slow burn or instant spark?
  4. 34Date night in or out?
  5. 35PDA or no PDA?
  6. 36Quality time or acts of service?
  7. 37Flowers or chocolates?
  8. 38Holding hands or forehead kisses?
  9. 39Handwritten letters or voice notes?
  10. 40Candlelight dinner or Netflix night?
  11. 41Long drives or long walks?
  12. 42Surprise date or planned date?
  13. 43Matching kurtas at a wedding or matching pyjamas at home?
  14. 44Movie hall or movie at home?
  15. 45Dance at the sangeet or sing at the mehendi?

Travel

12 questions
  1. 46Goa or Manali?
  2. 47Kerala backwaters or Rajasthan forts?
  3. 48Hill station in summer or beach in winter?
  4. 49Beach or mountains?
  5. 50Train or plane?
  6. 51Domestic trip or international trip?
  7. 52Window seat or aisle seat?
  8. 53Road trip or fly there?
  9. 54Travel with friends or just us?
  10. 55Hotel or homestay?
  11. 56Relax by the pool or explore all day?
  12. 57Pack a week early or the night before?

Bollywood, cricket and pop culture

12 questions
  1. 58Bollywood or Hollywood?
  2. 5990s Bollywood or new Bollywood?
  3. 60SRK or Salman?
  4. 61Cricket or football?
  5. 62Arijit Singh or A.R. Rahman?
  6. 63OTT series or movie night?
  7. 64Reels or YouTube?
  8. 65IPL final or a friend's wedding on the same night?
  9. 66Comedy or horror?
  10. 67Binge-watch or one episode a week?
  11. 68Rom-coms or thrillers?
  12. 69Books or movies?

Deeper this or that

15 questions
  1. 70Love or respect?
  2. 71Stability or adventure?
  3. 72Family approval or personal happiness?
  4. 73Destiny or choice?
  5. 74Fix the problem or just listen?
  6. 75Grow old in your hometown or retire somewhere new?
  7. 76Being right or being understood?
  8. 77Talk it out now or cool off first?
  9. 78Live near family or start fresh in a new city?
  10. 79Kids or pets?
  11. 80Sorry first or hug first?
  12. 81Joint account or separate accounts?
  13. 82Buy a flat on EMI or rent and invest?
  14. 83Big fat wedding or court marriage?
  15. 84Startup risk or stable job?

Long-distance this or that

16 questions
  1. 85Video call or voice note?
  2. 86Surprise visit or planned trip?
  3. 87Good-morning text or goodnight call?
  4. 88Your city or mine for the next visit?
  5. 89One long visit or lots of short ones?
  6. 90Count down the days or don't look at the calendar?
  7. 91Movie together on call or a game online?
  8. 92Fall asleep on call or a goodnight text?
  9. 93Shared playlist or shared photo album?
  10. 94Celebrate the anniversary on call or wait to celebrate together?
  11. 95Hug at the arrivals gate or on the railway platform?
  12. 96Different cities in India or one of us abroad?
  13. 97Care package or handwritten letter?
  14. 98Reply instantly or reply when you can say it properly?
  15. 99Watch the same show live or each watch and discuss later?
  16. 100Same biryani ordered on a video date or the same dal cooked together on call?

How to use these

  • Play it rapid-fire first, then come back to the answers that surprised you.
  • Answer together on the count of three, so nobody copies.
  • On road trips, take turns reading them out, one section per hour.

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Where these questions come from

We read the lists couples already search for, kept the questions that work, and rewrote or replaced most of them in our own words. Some come from the 2,000+ prompts inside the Hugsy app. A person reviews every list before it goes live.